RED FLAG 5

If your partner abuses you emotionally…

It is easy to notice when your partner abuses you physically because the wounds that you get as a result of this kind of abuse is obvious and the scars it leaves on your body cannot be overlooked. It is easy to make a decision when you cannot take it anymore. So what if the abuse is not physical. What if it’s scars cannot be seen on your body? Does it make it less of an abuse?

Millions of people are abused emotionally and the damage it causes is far worse than the most dreadful physical abuse. A person who is emotionally abused is made to think that without the partner (in this case the abuser) he/she is nothing and cannot really be productive or do anything meaningful with his or her life.

You should notice this red flag when your partner abuses you verbally(a form of emotional abuse) by yelling at you and insulting you. He/she may put you down  by calling you names that make you feel bad about yourself and also embarrass you in front of everyone. Your partner may utterly reject you by usually ignoring your presence and your opinion or even your conversations.

You would know you are being abused emotionally if you are constantly afraid of your partner. You are afraid to be yourself in his/her presence because you might not know what would flare him/ her up in anger and at what point. An emotionally abusive partner would usually cause you to isolate yourself from the people that make you happy. He/she might go to the extent of cutting off friends and even family so he/she can have more room to opress you. Your partner may also do this to render you powerless so that you would not have anyone to run to when the situation gets worse.

In extreme cases, an emotionally abusive partner would control your money and withhold your own money from you. He might even prevent you from working and subsequently “steal” or take away the little money you depend on. They do all these to keep you solely dependent on them.

The thing with abusers is that they always blame you for making them treat you the way they do. But what you should know is that it is never your fault that they are abusive. Watch closely. You might not even be the only one they abuse so how is it your fault then? It is solely their choice to abuse you and once you allow them they would do this to you through out your walk with them.

Physical abuse can damage your body but emotional abuse damages your soul gradually and you might never be able to repair it so be brave enough to walk away from that person whose abusive nature is having a negative turn on your self-esteem or be bold enough to seek help for the both of you if need be. Emotional abuse can kill!

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By: Angela Odame

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